Facebook newsfeed etiquette. Or why I don’t want to see your stitches.

22 Apr

Alright let’s face it people, Facebook is pretty awesome. It’s a way to connect, mobilize, advertise and entertain. But the problem with every good invention is the people who use it. Here are some newsfeed items that drive me up the wall.*

1. Pictures of your wounds
I like to peruse my Facebook newsfeed as much as the next person. I enjoy scrolling and seeing interesting article, cool song, hilarious unlikely animal friendship picture and then <record screech> your gaping, infected wound.

When did it become ok to show people your wounds? You don’t go on the train in the morning and say, “hey guys, you want to see my infected stitches?” Because it’s gross right? So why is it ok to show to me?

I wonder if soldiers injured during WWII thought, “man, this gunshot wound is horrible. I hope it heals. But not before I show it to 500 of my closest friends”.

Simply put, posting your marathon time? Awesome. Posting pictures of your bruised and broken toenail from marathon training? Thumbs down!

2. Pictures of your naked kid
Remember the days when parents would embarrass their son or daughter by showing their new partner some naked baby pictures of them?

In 20 years, the conversation might go more like this.

Mom: Johnny was so cute when he was little. Want to see some pictures of him when he was being toilet trained?
New girlfriend: That’s ok, I already saw them. On the internet.

That’s right parents. Let’s play a little more hard to get.

3. Ultrasound pictures
Don’t get me wrong, I have no problem with ultrasound pictures. They’re pretty medically important. I don’t even mind seeing them on your fridge. You know, because we’re actually friends,  I’m in your house opening your fridge after all.


But when I haven’t seen you in ages and we are just acquaintances, it’s not ok for me to see the inside of your uterus. I know you’re excited and you want to announce to all your “friends” that a human being is growing inside of you. But remember, you are showing us your medical information (located on the top band of the photos). Oh yeah, and you’re also showing us INSIDE YOUR BODY. Is nothing sacred?

4. Your multiple photoshoots
I am so happy that you got married. I might even have been at your wedding, blowing those ridiculous bubbles for you when you walked down the aisle. I even like seeing a few photos from your big day. But do you have to inundate us with the multiple photoshoots?

There was your engagement photoshoot, your wedding photos, your “trash the dress” photoshoot (don’t even get me started on that), your maternity photoshoot, the newborn photoshoot and the newly fashionable “cake smash photoshoot”.


Yes, I just heard of this one the other day. You hire a professional photographer to take pictures of your baby smashing in a cake on their first birthday. You know we are first world gluttons when we pay someone to take pictures of our kid destroying food. I can only imagine what my relatives overseas would think of this. If they find puppy obedience school insane, I’m sure the cake smash won’t go over very well with them.

I have to wonder, if there was no Facebook would we so obsessively document our milestones? If there was no audience, would we have the desire to share so much?

Let’s narrate this to show what’s really going on.

“I really don’t want my wedding dress to go to waste, so instead of donating it to charity or saving it for my own daughter, I’m going to wreck it by laying in some mud and water. I totally think 100s of people are going to want to see this”.


“I am 8 months pregnant, I feel like I am the first person who has ever done this before, maybe I’ll even be the last. I just HAVE to have pictures of my husband’s hands on my belly in the forest. After all, if a woman is pregnant in the forest and 100s of people don’t see it, is she even really pregnant?”

I could totally go on but I still want friends after I publish this post.

5. Too many selfies.
It seems that the easier it is to take pictures of ourselves, the more often we do it. Imagine during the 80s, if someone constantly took Polaroid photos of themselves in their bathroom, then carried them around to show people. I think the occasional self portrait is fine, I just don’t want to see you age in real time.


The moral of the story: just because it’s easier to do now, doesn’t mean it’s less weird.

I’m not sure if these pet peeves of mine will ever change, nor do I think people will ever really stop doing them. Maybe I’ll just petition to Facebook to have 2 separate newsfeeds. Or at least an extra optional ones for the wounds.

* this doesn’t mean I don’t want to be friends with you anymore, it just means that some days you make me throw up a little bit in my mouth.


Posted by on April 22, 2013 in Uncategorized


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3 responses to “Facebook newsfeed etiquette. Or why I don’t want to see your stitches.

  1. sezzysarah

    April 23, 2013 at 8:30 am

    I’m definitely guilty of #4 but to plead my defence we post those photos mainly to promote our wonderful photographer (we were her first real clients and get her tons of business) and also because our family (near and far) continue to insist that we put photos up for them to see. Especially anything to do with our baby (we purposefully do not post naked baby pics or anything that will be too awkward or embarrassing in the future).

    The other Facebook news feed pet peeve that I have and wasn’t mentioned here is the “Like this picture if you believe in God, Ignore and you hate God and will go to hell” etc etc and things like that! It’s the social media chain letters equivalents but on crack. So annoying.

  2. Frustrated

    April 23, 2013 at 10:00 am

    There are many things on Facebook that we could be her all day. However, sezzysarah hit the nail on the head with with the chain crap. I love being told every day how I will be damned if I don’t like God. Another personal fave is friends who constantly talk about how bratty their kids are but don’t do anything to discipline their child. No, it’s not okay for your child to rip off his shitty diaper and smear it everywhere not once, not twice, several times. I’m sorry but once would be sufficient for disciplining if not try duct tape to keep the diaper on or start potty training. This is not a funny story, it’s disgusting. And yes, I am judging your parenting skills because you put it on Facebook. I

    If you don’t want judgement then don’t put it out for the world to see.

  3. sezzysarah

    April 23, 2013 at 12:24 pm

    Totally agree with Frustrated! I also think you should include on your list as #6: Pictures of newborn babies immediately after being born with all the goop and blood and stuff still on them….kind of goes with points 1, 2 and 3.


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